i am emily and...

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Posts tagged advice

Dec 30

1. Stop reading comment sections on articles which you know are only going to make you angry and disappointed in humanity.

2. Stop engaging with said commenters if you do go down and read their Hitler-referencing drivel. Arguing with anonymous trolls will not get you anywhere.

3. Tell people all throughout your life how much they mean to you and how much you love them.

4. Dare to kiss someone first when you want to kiss them, instead of waiting agonizingly for them to make the first move.

5. Start making your own granola when you get a little time to keep in a jar or Ziploc bag for your breakfasts/snacks. Homemade granola offers perhaps one of the best effort to long-lasting deliciousness ratio out there.

6. Pick a physical activity which you don’t absolutely hate, so you can do it regularly. (Or at least find a podcast you love which makes jogging bearable.)

7. Delete phone numbers in your contacts list which you know you should no longer be texting while drunk or answering calls from.

8. Donate a little bit of your time to doing something for the good of society — even if it just means picking up a little bit of trash that you see and throwing it in a recycling bin, or starting a compost, or making a lunch for the homeless in your neighborhood once in a while. Focus on making the first step towards being more useful with your time.

9. Forgive someone you’ve been holding a grudge against long after they’ve apologized.

10. Decide what you actually want sexually, and start making an effort to communicate it effectively to your partners, instead of living in disappointment.

11. Stop watching terrible reality shows that you know only make you more of a shallow, simple person.

12. Go to see more movies alone on weekend afternoons, especially ones which make you cry and/or feel way too many #feelings.

13. Forgive yourself for dating people who were wrong for you, even if you knew they were wrong for you from the get-go, even if they ended up breaking your heart.

14. Take a chance on a date you normally wouldn’t accept, just to see where it might go and learn a bit more about what you like and don’t like.

15. Remind yourself often of how young you actually are and how much you have ahead of you.

16. Have crepes with Nutella and bananas and/or strawberries for breakfast once in a while. (If you haven’t done this yet, your entire body hates you and you just don’t know it.)

17. Eat lunch in the park, instead of at your desk or in a crowded restaurant, whenever you get the chance.

18. Learn how to do minor repairs on your clothes, such as replacing buttons or fixing a small tear, and keep a needle and thread with you when traveling or going somewhere important. You never know when you might need it.

19. Dance more by yourself in your room, to whatever absurd music you like to listen to when you’re alone.

20. Sing louder in the shower.

21. Accept that, in many situations, you are going to be the one who ends up loving more, loving longer, and loving more painfully. Know that this doesn’t make you a bad or faulty person.

22. Start being more selective about your online presence, and to whom you give the privilege of learning your stories.

23. Send handwritten cards to thank people for things, instead of just a thank-you email. Taking a moment for a handwritten card truly make all the difference when it comes to saying thanks, and makes people feel like you really appreciated them.

24. Make a concerted effort to remind yourself of the parts of your body you like, and what you can do to treat your body better and make it more energetic.

25. Don’t saddle yourself with unreasonable expectations about what you’re going to be able to accomplish or sustain over the course of one year, but push yourself to make the small, doable steps towards your goals.

26. Don’t judge your success or your failure over the course of the year by your waistline.

27. Be honest with yourself about which friends are not challenging or encouraging you in the right ways, and which friends may even be bringing you down or preventing you from doing the things you want to do.

28. Remind yourself to be proud of your accomplishments, even if you’re not used to congratulating yourself or savoring your accomplishments.

29. Keep the plans you make with your friends, even if it means going out of your way. Understand that a time when most of you are unmarried, independent, child-free, and within drivable distance of one another is something which will not come again in life, and take all the advantage of it you can.

Chelsea Fagan, 29 Ways To Make 2013 Better (via larmoyante)

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Dec 28
when i had ocd i was over thinking and over worrying. so with the help of a therapist we talked through in a session or 2 how pointless it was to worry about all the stuff i worried about. then the next thing to do was simply tell myself “stop. think about something else” when my ocd thoughts tried to come back. it got a lot easier as time went on and now my thoughts, i think, are pretty healthy. i also had help of medication and my ocd was mostly in over thinking, not any actual action. so this may not work for everyone. 

when i had ocd i was over thinking and over worrying. so with the help of a therapist we talked through in a session or 2 how pointless it was to worry about all the stuff i worried about. then the next thing to do was simply tell myself “stop. think about something else” when my ocd thoughts tried to come back. it got a lot easier as time went on and now my thoughts, i think, are pretty healthy. i also had help of medication and my ocd was mostly in over thinking, not any actual action. so this may not work for everyone. 

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Dec 26
littletreehumper:

hippieseurope:

☮❤☮❤



AGREE 
PROMOTE LIFE. WE ARE ONE OF THE FEW PLANETS THAT SUPPORTS LIFE. PROMOTE LIFE ABOVE ALL ELSE. SUPPORT BIO DIVERSITY. 

littletreehumper:

hippieseurope:

☮❤☮❤

AGREE 

PROMOTE LIFE. WE ARE ONE OF THE FEW PLANETS THAT SUPPORTS LIFE. PROMOTE LIFE ABOVE ALL ELSE. SUPPORT BIO DIVERSITY. 




Dec 23

School is really important: Reading, writing, arithmetic. But what they tend to do is teach you reading, writing, arithmetic…then teach you reading, writing, arithmetic again. Then again, then again, just making it harder and harder just to keep you busy. And that’s where I think they messed up. There should be a class on drugs. There should be a class on sex education. No, REAL sex education class, not just pictures and illogical terms…There should be a class on scams, there should be a class on religious cults, there should be a class on police brutality, there should be a class on apartheid, there should be a class on racism in America, there should be a class on why people are hungry, but there’s not, their class is on…gym….Their class is like Algebra. we have yet to go a store and said, “Can I have X Y + 2 and give me my Y change back, thank you.” You know?…Like foreign languages. I think that they are important, but I don’t think it should be required. Actually, they should be teaching you English, and then teach you how to understand double talk, politician’s double talk. Not teaching you how to understand French and Spanish and GERMAN. When am I going to Germany? I can’t afford to pay my rent in America! How am I going to Germany?

—Tupac, Age 17 On the Topic of Education, 1988.

i somewhat agree. i would change the curriculum in high school a little. i would also extend the school year or school days and include a few breaks if the day was extended. i would change the way we teach to children/teens as well. i would have teachers teach through art, games, and music so that learning is more interesting and it happens faster. i would have slightly smaller class sizes. 

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Dec 20
  • some person: belief in a god is belief in something with no proof; i only believe things with proof; etc etc
  • some person: *argues about how superior his moral beliefs or political ideologies (or any opinion) are consistently*
  • me: am i the only person who sees how backwards this is?
  • me: everyone believes in something that has no proof. i don't even argue about the existence of god at all. i don't think others should either. it will go no where. arguing morals is slightly different than belief in god because there can be proof to 'kind of' support an argument, for lack of better words. but it still comes down to personal opinion, thus ultimately, lack of proof. it's not that i don't believe people shouldn't argue about opinions. but pick and choose your battles. a belief in god means nothing anyway. why would you argue with someone who believes in something that doesn't have almost any affect on his behavior at all? start with something more practical is what i say. something that needs to be fixed such as starving people in the world. ....well i'm rambling but i just had to say it. hopefully this makes sense...